Honesty is the best policy

Bluffing is not an option. When faced with a tricky, difficult question people tend to evade telling the truth if it means hurting their livelihood, pride or cause an emotional loss to them.

The Bible states that The Truth will set you free. It is very easy to take this verse out of context and use it to our own convenience. However we have to always be shrewd - acute or sharp in practical matters. We are not bluntly honest but wise in telling the truth

We also have to bear in mind that the way the world works is more complicated and we got to use our brain communicating something we think is the truth

I for one am a frank, straightforward person. If I dislike something, someone I will let them know without running around the bush. Most people would think that is naive.

I don't tell the person that I hate them or anything that depressing . What I actually do is to lessen my frequency of contact with them. After all why spend time with a person who is displeasing to you and does not do any good for your emotional health.

What about if someone ask you if something looks nice. Why tell them it does when it doesn;t

If your boss had an idea, will you such up to him and praise him to the heavens stating that you think the idea is the best you ever heard and gush over it or do you let him know what is in your mind tha the idea is trash in a more gentle way.

That's me previously.

Now I have become a more complex thinker. I prefer that term to open mindedness as it denotes that one was wrong in the past. But my thinking was not in error. It was a point of growth that I had to go through in order to come to the stage that I am now

Taken to the extreme, honesty without tack can do more harm than good. Though I admire frankness, I know understand why subtlety is necessary for self defence in conversation most of the time


Should someone ask me if she looks fat, I would tell him (most likely her) that I am not too sure. I would say she look great and ask her back if she has weight herself recently. Throw back the question at her and she will have to answer herself. Why should I tell her something that is so obvious to hersl\elf

Of course the goal of the conversation is also important to decide whether or not to be honest.

Honesty cause you to be vulnerable. The information that you share could be use against you. So it is wise to practise caution in what you reveal. Remember that everyone have skeletons in their cupboard and it is not good to bare it if these truths if it will harm you or others.

On the other side of the coin, honesty can cause another person to let down their defense system and also be honest with you. the principle of reciprocity works here.


The past. It is best to keep mum about the past especially if it is not something pleasant. Best not to medidate. Bet you thought meditation is only the silent kind. But if you keep on talking about it to others are you not reciting it and thus keeping it ingrain in your being.

Silence and a smile is the next best option to honesty. Let me rephrase that. It depends on the situation. You can put the truth in another way but you cannot twist the truth. One day you would not know whether you are telling a truth and lie and the line between those two has blured and you will live in a deceptive reality.

A lie will surely come back to haunt you